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Improving Self Esteem Through Individual Therapy Sessions

Improving Self Esteem Through Individual Therapy Sessions

Overcome Issues with Self Esteem & Self Worth

Self esteem is the term used to express self worth and personal judgement. It can be either positive or negative, and it encompasses personal beliefs, values and emotional state of being. Many important life tools, including comfort level in social settings, perceived potential for success and the ability to attract positive people, are influenced by levels of self esteem, making this an important subject in every aspect of life.

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Steps Adults and Children Can Take To Cope With Divorce

Steps Adults and Children Can Take To Cope With Divorce

Helping Family Deal with Major Relationship Changes

When parents make the decision to divorce, it can be a confusing and stressful time for the entire family. The adults often have a difficult time sorting through the legal matters and logistics involved with this major life change, while children face confusion, frustration and sometimes feel as if they are to blame. In some instances, divorce takes a long time to sort through, especially when there is conflict surrounding the decision to separate or legal quarrels regarding custody arrangements, property distribution and financial matters. With this conflict comes an increased level of stress and confusion for the entire family, leading to strong emotions of disappointment and anger.

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Improved Communication: An Essential Component In Any Relationship

Improved Communication: An Essential Component In Any Relationship

Research indicates that for every one negative behavior you express to your partner, you must also demonstrate five positive behaviors. This is known as the 5:1 ratio, and it is scientifically proven to improve the success rate of a marriage. Positive behaviors include showing physical affection, validating the other person’s feelings, showing appreciation, complimenting your mate and remaining supportive in tough situations. Negative behaviors, such as raising your voice in a complaint or becoming critical of a choice your partner has made, also have a place, but they must be minimized to make a relationship work. In order to implement the 5:1 ratio, you must first learn to utilize effective communication skills. That is, you must focus both on your own thoughts and what the other person has to say, while also paying close attention to where thoughts and words are coming from.

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Understanding Depression and How Individual Therapy Can Help

Understanding Depression and How Individual Therapy Can Help

Depression is wide reaching, affecting more than 120 million individuals across the globe. According to statistics provided by the World Health Organization, this mental illness causes more than 800,000 suicide attempts annually and is a major contributing factor to disability claims made through government and private organizations each year. The impacts of this illness manifest in physical ways too, causing increases in blood pressure and blood sugar, joint and muscular pains, arthritis, respiratory ailments, headaches and extreme fatigue.

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Overcoming Anxiety With The Help Of Individual Therapy

Overcoming Anxiety With The Help Of Individual Therapy

Overcoming Anxiety With The Help Of Individual Therapy

Anxiety is a condition that all of us face at some point in our lives. It typically manifests as some combination of apprehension, nervousness, fear and struggle. This condition dates far back in human existence, as anxious behaviors are believed to be rooted in evolutionary psychology with a goal of increasing action and vigilance when a threat is imminent. Much like the fight, flight or hide behavior, feeling anxious can serve as a protective measure when immediate decisions are necessary for the health and well being of the individual.

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How To Help Your Kids During Times Of Crisis

How To Help Your Kids During Times Of Crisis

Today, kids hear things on the news that may be distressing to them. They hear about shootings at schools or the most recent bombing at the Boston Marathon. Some children become more affected by these news events and they may require your help and guidance as a parent. At times, your child will be best helped with a counselor. But it is your job as a parent to tune into your child’s feelings when scary events happen. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy has some tips and strategies for families.

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